By Kumud Shivalkar in Mumbai
Violence against woman is such a cowardly act that it should be condemned with utmost contempt. Sometimes it is but stories of horrible acts of violence keep coming especially when boys have to accept rejection of their advances towards a girl. Some are brought up in such an atmosphere that they cannot take “No” as answer from the girl. And the results can be horrendous for both the girl and society. One such story has come to light since actress Kangana Ranaut’s sister who is a Twitter pugilist, came out with the details of her own acid attack.
Now we know she is an acid attack survivor. She has detailed of the horrifying acid attack on her and how she is still dealing with its aftermath. She also revealed that around the same time Kangana was physically assaulted and ‘almost beaten to death’.
She shared a photo from her school and college days on Instagram. Remembering those days, Rangoli added that the acid attack happened soon after the (she shared) photo was clicked.
“Shortly after this image was clicked, the guy whose proposal I refused threw one litre acid on my face, I had to go through 54 surgeries strangely and simultaneously my little sister was physically assaulted and almost beaten to death for what ?” she wrote, adding, “Cause our parents gave birth to beautiful, intelligent and confident daughters, world is not kind to girl child ,time to fight all kind of social evil … so it’s safer for our children.”
Delving into the long and enduring pain of that attack, she added, “Lot of people feeling sorry about the fact that I lost my beauty, honestly when your organs melt before your eyes beauty is the last thing you care about, even after 54 surgeries over a span of 5 years doctors couldn’t reconstruct my ear. I had lost one eye had a retina transplant, doctors took skin patches from all over my body and grafted my one breast which was severely damaged, during breast feeding Prithu I felt many complications.”
It has never been back to NORMAL
She still has to deal with complications. “Even now I can’t stretch my neck sometime itching in grafted skin is so bad that I wish I was dead… shockingly acid victims numbers are very high in India, the culprit was out on bail within few weeks, it was too painful to see him roam around freely. I stopped following the case, why not death sentence for these people? Beauty was the last thing I cared about I was university topper but best years of my youth went in operation theatres, even though I had 90 percent burn still no reservation for acid survivors. These are some of the questions we need to ask ourselves and our system.”
Having lost her will to even “live”, Rangoli credits sister Kangana, her parents and her husband who helped her. With their help, she got her “want to live again”. “I don’t know wat to say honestly I had given up on my life, my now husband bt back den jst a normal friend washd my wounds &waited outside operation theatres fr years vry supportive sister & parents collectively breathed life in to me.. can’t take credit fr wat my life is today. I don’t know initially I wanted to know everything but my sister helped me disassociate from all this, it was harming my recovery process and now my husband and my son are my priority not going after a culprit.”
In this day and age when society has evolved so much that live-ins are the norm rather than a social taboo and both men and women are quite normally accepting of and giving second chances to each other after break-ups, divorces and what have you, men have to understand that a “No” from a girl is merely an expression of her desire to be with someone else rather than an attack on his prestige and ego. Taking “No” and moving on in life does not belittle him one bit. But then again, a lot depends on how boys are brought up!